The last several days have been Byron Katie ones for Katrisa, Cassidy, and I. It’s like having one long facilitation fest with BK herself; we’ve been gorging on two of her books, as well as the tidbits from both Katrisa’s and my sessions with Pam. Cassidy is right there as well.
In fact, this blog stems from a frequent Cassidy comment: “That’s your Thought Baby, not mine.” Translated it means, roughly, the same thing as “That was your idea, not mine! I take no responsibility for it.” Byron Katie’s work is about Thought Babies, especially the ones that have grown up, had their own families, and still refuse to leave the nest. We love them, yes—but we’re kind of tired of stepping around them and their paraphernalia all the time. It’s exhausting, and we’d like to live our own lives, thank you very much.
The Work does not center on how to rid ourselves of these unwieldy Babies-Now-Adults. In fact, it is impossible to dislodge them. There is no “letting go of,” or “clearing your mind of,” or “learning to live with” these children; they must choose to go of their own accord. And how is this accomplished? By simple inquiry. Four questions and a turnaround. Simple—but it takes courage. Some of us think we couldn’t live without our Thought Babies and their families. When we realize we can (and ARE!), they disappear of their own accord. They may drop a postcard to us from time to time, but ensconced in our homes, they’re not.
Now that some of my children have left town, tearfully but joyfully, I find I have some extra space. I’ve discovered that there are Orphan Thoughts very deserving of my spacious, comfortable home. Perhaps you would like to house one or more of them as well? There are millions of stranded Thoughts, free to a good home.
Here’s but a small sampling of the Orphans I found wandering the Universe:
- I’m Perfect Exactly the Way I Am.
- I Don’t Need Anyone to Complete Me.
- I Am Not My Story.
- Truth Cannot Hurt You, and her twin brother, Absolutely No One Can Make You Feel Anything You Don’t Want to Feel.
- We Are All Connected.
- If I Don’t Have It, I Don’t Need It. (Sometimes goes by “If I Need It, I Have It Already.” U2 made this pair famous in their song, “It’s a Beautiful Day.”)
It almost goes without saying that each of these lovely Orphans are low-maintenance, cheerful companions. Once installed in your Heart Home, you’ll only know they’re there when you spontaneously smile or laugh at a thought that used to bring pain. You might find yourself singing out loud on the street, as I did yesterday. You’ll lose weight, make friends, and win the lottery—or at least feel like you did.
There’s no telling what these Orphans will bring into your life.